What we do know is that;
Love is worth the fight.
Love is a disappointment.
Love is not a fairy tale.
Love is a dream.
Love is a battle.
Love is not always positive.
Love is not perfect.
Love is suicide.
Love is hell.
Love is the most addictive drug in the world.
We are all looking for love.
There are more things that can be said about love, but I don't suppose I should go any farther. Love comes in many shapes, sizes and forms. It can come as a total accident! Love at first sight? Is that what it should be called? Or it can be right under your nose and you won't see it until after your high school life and farther down the road. Sometimes you think it is meant to be but then ends tragically. Or if you are lucky, it will work out till those words have final meaning, 'Till death do us part.'
Either way this is my view on love in many different ways. Care not to agree? Well too bad, this is my blog remember? (:
Love at first sight. That is what girls desire, I did at one point in time until I finally realized that it was only meant to happen in the movies or fairy tales. Love at first sight is when you make eye contact with someone or bump into them 'accidently' and there is that feeling of butterflies and fireworks can be heard in the air. Sparks fly? Flowers? A movie? Goodnight kiss? All in the movies, and heads up, I will most likely say that a lot in this blog. Love at first sight is something that makes love look so pure and perfect but either way, you may experience that love at first sight feeling but in the end it won't be anymore meaningful than a puppy dog crush. I'm not saying that is how it happens but you can't be too careful when it comes to love.
Now as I had just mentioned! Puppy dog love. The most fooling and believable love there is. In my opinion, puppy dog love is when you claim you are IN LOVE but it is nothing more than a simple crush or what you thought was love. It is the worst love you can go through. Again, it's when you are sure you are in love but the signs are clear. Now it is different for everyone. Puppy dog love can be minor love in the beginning but if you rush into it ( which mostly anyone who rushes into a relationship realizes it wasn't TRUE love ) then it all falls apart when you finally realize you either cannot stand that person, or they are just not what you first expected!
Lustful Relationships! Now aren't those the best? I wouldn't know but from what I've heard and seen from society they are nothing to enjoy. Unless you don't mind being known as that guy or girl who dates someone just to sleep around for the hell of it then dump them. That doesn't really sound fun, not to mention all the extra creepy crawly friends you gain from those type of relationships. (; Ha. Well honestly, whether you wait to have sex after marriage or you have it with the person you are in love with. That is fine in my book. But if you just get with someone and use them for sex, or you use each other for sex, that shit just ain't right!
Clingy Relationships. There is something I am familiar with. You would think that getting attention from your boyfriend or girlfriend is a great thing. I mean, come on girls, you can't say it isn't nice when your boyfriend/husband gives you all the attention. It's super nice, right? Of course, until you start to see how much of the attention he seems to give and have. Same go with the woman. At times there will be that one relationship where the guy or girl seems to notice just about anything and everything in your life. Which triggers some type of jealous/needy button and they have to be on your ass every damn minute. Now that kinda grew on me because I guess at some point and time you realize they just really love you but when you can't see your friends? Your called a slut for no reason? A pointless fight is unleashed and hell rises? Then you can see the problem there. That's not a hard relationship to solve but it takes time! If you really care about this person, give each other space but that doesn't mean if you give them too much space that they are going to jump on the next open boat. Not everyone is like that!
Controlling Relationships. Yikes. Those are horrid. It's that relationship where you basically loose your humanity and are a slave to the person you love. Us girls are easily prone to being controlled but not all of us. I will admit that I fell into a situation like that but of course I knew I wasn't going to be completely controlled because I have free will. Now, some may ask why do they get so controlling. There are several answers to that but here are the few that make a lot of sense.
- They guy ( it's mainly guys who end of controlling a relationship ) grew up watching his father or a father figure become controlling, able to get his way and that would wipe the guy psychologically for the rest of his life assuming that he is to have complete control of those
- Possibly that person was hurt in many previous relationships, being cheated on, lied to, abused, etc. So they are afraid to give the next person in the relationship any kind of freedom because they fear of being hurt.
- They are just jerks and do what they want.
- Woman, they like feeling in control. They are the type of girls who always got what they wanted at a young age. Spoiled brats I like to call them.
Abusive Relationships. Now this is also something that has been a problem in my past relationships. Now it wasn't like what you see on tv but it was just as bad as anything else. When you are a victim in an abusive relationship you need to be selfish and simply get the hell out! Or set some order back into the relationship. It is never right for a man to hit a woman and that is the same for woman hitting men. No excuse. It causes nothing but problems and no one wins. Plus it follows with a lot of fear, regret, problems, law issues and even death. So if you love someone deeply but they are hurting you, get out of the relationship, call someone and get them help and hopefully the problem can be solved.
Young Teen Parent Relationships. I have to say something about this one because not everyone can understand what it is for teen parents. Now I wouldn't know on a personal note but I do observe enough to see how tough that is! Now yes, they had sex and ended up having a baby. Now some parents take responsibility but some just don't really care. Or one parent will and the other won't. Either way it is a whirl wind of drama! Yet, there are some committed parents who love each other enough that they try to keep their relationship strong and take care of their baby. Yes, the hardship of having a baby while still in school causes teens so much stress and this is why some relationships don't last.
Also it's the fact that these teens have a baby which is meant for later in the future! You guys are not mentally and emotionally prepared for it, not matter how much you believe you are. Guys will leave because they don't want to loose their freedom and be tied down by a baby and mothers do the same! This baby honestly did not ask to be brought into the world so early, so never blame the child. If you choose to do the dirty deed then take responsibility for the miracle that came along with it. Simple as that. I do know teen parents who are still together and getting married and I know of some who are done with each other and now its just another single parent taking care of a baby.
I would go on but I want to at least get this posted before class gets out. Now, Love can hit us in many ways shapes, sizes and forms. It can also be dangerous. So, be cautious when it comes to love. If you find yourself in any of these type of relationships just try to see the signs, which I might do a blog for that if people want it. I might just post it anyways because no one really comments this shit anyways! (:
So, no matter what type of hardship of love you've experience, just know that there is someone out there. Don't rush, enjoy life and make the best out of it!
